Thursday, December 10, 2009

Just Because...

Here are some of the things that have kept me laughing recently...

My aunt bought this book for my family over Thanksgiving:
It is one of those books that looks like it is for kids but actually has a lot of sarcastic humor. I still can't believe my family lives in the country! When my older brothers and I were driving out there for Thanksgiving we drove passed a field with buffalo, llamas, cows, donkeys, something with long horns, and an unidentifiable animal that we could best describe as a bear-cow (it looked like it could be a Sesame Street character)--and they were all just coexisting in one field!! Craziest thing I have ever seen.

Zenebesh has had a lot of doctor's appointments recently at the hospital near my school, so Aaron has been hanging out with me at college during her appointments. He LOVES coming to school with me, and we spend most of our time watching the wrestler's or "working-out" in the weight room (Aaron wants to be a wrestler now when he grows up--last year it was basketball). The other day we stopped at the store for a treat and he insisted on getting a Naked Juice. I excitedly pointed out to him that the one he picked had protein in it and that wrestler's use protein to help them get super strong. He seemed deep in thought for a few minutes as he sipped his juice, and all of a sudden he goes:

"I feel like I'm getting stronger!".

Another couple minutes passed (again, he's deep in thought), then he looked up at me with a seriously concerned look on his face and says:

"Uh-oh, I think I might bust out of my jacket!"

He proceeded to ask if he could try and pull the lamp post we walked past out of the ground--I told him that just because he drank protein and all of a sudden has super strength doesn't mean he can destroy school property ;)

We had our DinoMight fundraiser the other day and Jesse spoke about how the trip he took to South Africa when he was a DinoMight participant inspired him to study abroad in Southern Africa in college. Somehow his speech gave the 4th grade girls in the audience the impression that he was famous. Afterwards they were all asking him for his autograph and wanting to take pictures "with that famous guy". One little girl ran up to me with the paper Jesse autographed and goes "He TOUCHED this!! i am going to save it forever!"
Talk about an ego-boost for Jesse.

0n Saturday night I was at my parent's house and we were all sitting around watching a Christmas movie when I overheard this conversation between Aaron and Tekle:
Aaron: I want a girlfriend for Christmas!
Tekle: What?? Eeew Gross!
Aaron: "Nope, don't even say anything, I already decided that's what I want!"

This is Zeni's first Christmas so she is just getting a hang of how everything works. Everyone is having a blast explaining all of the fun traditions to her, but it's a lot to take in. One of the first Christmas decorations the kids pulled out this year was the mistletoe, and Zenebesh thought it was hilarious to watch everyone run around trying not to get caught under it. She didn't realize that the mistletoe was any different than the other ornaments though, so she kept running around with the MN Wild ornament over her head, waiting expectantly for a kiss. Eventually someone explained that only the mistletoe has special love powers ;)

Tekle got one of those clever shirts that says "This is my dress shirt" for his birthday this year and the other day Aaron decided to try it on. After realizing it was way too big for him, Aaron goes: "Now I get why they call it a DRESS shirt!"

Hilarious kids.

Monday, December 07, 2009

The Gift of Each Other

Moving is hard. Change is hard. But it makes me so happy that these two have each other!

Tuesday, December 01, 2009

Re-post in Honor of World Aids Day

How to get involved for World Aids Day 2009:
Be sure to visit Lisa's blog for five ideas of things you can do to support people living with HIV/AIDS and to help stop the spread of this very preventable disease:

Here are some awesome local organizations to hook up with if you are in the area!
Open Arms of MN
Minnesota Aids Project

HIV can NOT be spread through casual/household contact. HIV is not spread through hugging,


shaking hands,

sharing toys,

sneezing, coughing,

sharing food,

sharing drinks,


or any other casual way. It has been proven that HIV and AIDS can only be spread through sexual contact, birth, breastfeeding and blood to blood contact (such as sharing needles).

- HIV is now considered a chronic but manageable disease. With treatment, people who are HIV+ can live indefinitely without developing AIDS and can live long and full lives.

- People who are HIV+ deserve to be treated with love, respect, support and acceptance as all people do. If anyone wants more info on transmission, there is great info on the Center for Disease Control website

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Quick Hello

Since professors just LOVE piling tons of work on college students right before Thanksgiving break, I don't have a lot of time to blog--but here is a picture for any of Zeni's friends that may be checking back here for updates:
HELLO Biruk, Amira, Zerihun, Nes, Teklegn, Eden, and anyone else from KM!!!

Thursday, November 12, 2009

DinoMights in the News!

Yeah, we are kind of a big deal ;)
Plus, I'm on the screen for a split second right at the end which means I'm basically famous.


DinoMights Website

DinoMights Blog

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Letters From an Inner-City Kid

I read a really powerful essay awhile ago, so I thought I would share it here. Even if you don't interact much with kids in an inner-city context, it includes a lot of insight in it that would be helpful when working with any child who has experienced traumatic life circumstances.

From the Burnside Writers Collective [Note: This piece contains some contextual profanity].

To the caring and capable adult who wants to help me, but sometimes does not want to see me;
To the one who plays with me, and who shows me lots of fun, but then like a grandparent, sends me home again when I get too tiring;
To the one who faithfully comes into the neighborhood twice a week and never misses an appointment;
To the one who really does love me with all their heart, but who still recoils when I get too close because of my smell, or my runny nose, or my ringworm;
To the one who buys me stuff, even though I ain’t their kid;
To the one who reads books with me, and helps me with my homework, and mentors me, and comes to my court review.
This letter is for you.
Thank you.
I don’t say that very often, do I? At least, not in ways you hear. Even though I may not show outward signs of appreciation, you must realize how important you are to me. You take time out of your busy life to come and visit me. I am a kid you don’t know too well, and one you don’t fully trust, but you come see me anyway. You are not my mamma or her baby daddy, and the courts didn’t make you come here. So when you spend time with me, I know it is because you want to. I’m too tough to tell you, but I need that kind of care. I crave it. I love you for doing it.

But you got to remember that you and me are different, okay? You got to remember that there are some things that I know better than you.
You drive into my neighborhood to work, but I live here all the time.
That’s not a bad thing, I am glad you come to see me. But you got to remember that you’re the guest here. You are not in charge all the time. You don’t always set the agenda.
Long after you leave, I will still be here.
When you are waking up for work and drinking your morning coffee, I am dragging my younger siblings out of bed and dressing them and making sure they eat something so we can get to the bus stop on time. And I don’t wake mamma.
When you are sleeping in your bed at night, I am curled up in a trembling mass in the corner of a shadowy den hoping and praying that my new daddy don’t come home drunk again.
I know you want to help, but you got to remember you don’t make the rules.
I need to drive sometimes. I know I am a little kid, but there are some things that I know better than you.You forget that sometimes, but hey, nobody’s perfect.
I know you like to visit me, but I also know that I scare you. You come from somewhere different than me and you can’t figure out why I act like I do.

For example, when you give popcorn to the kid on my left, I want some too. Do I simply ask for some, or patiently wait my turn? You wish I would.
“Hey! No fair! Why does he get popcorn? Where’s mine? Gimme some!”
This is my default.
There is a whining sound in my voice that annoys you, or I sound angry and aggressive.
What I want to say is this: “The popcorn looks delicious. I would like to have some, please.”
But I don’t know how to say that.
You tell me I have poor manners. You tell me I am rude. Well, I don’t know much about that, but I do know that you are trying to rip me off.
At home, and everywhere else I go, the assumption is that I am going to get screwed. See, I live with my mom and her boyfriend, and he has kids of his own that he brought with him when he moved in with us. And my brother has a different dad too.
At my house, there are favorite kids. At my house, I don’t get a new toy just because my brother did. At my house, I get left out.
But my mamma doesn’t say anything because it might make Joey mad. So, at my house, I am on my own.
Then you come along, and you seem nice enough. But how do I know that there is enough popcorn for me? How do I know that you are going to serve me just like you served that other kid? How do I know that you won’t ignore me?
I don’t.
I don’t know until I can trust you. Because, even though I am here in a church or school or kids club, I forget that I don’t have to fight. I forget that you try to be fair.
So, I will demand popcorn if I have to.

I say “fuck” a lot. And “bitch” and “shit” and “pussy.” You tell me I am bad, but really I am just talking like everybody else.
You got stuff you say, and I got stuff I say. It’s not because I am dumber than you, it is just my language.
I need you to fight against something. You will be tempted to judge me based on my speech patterns. My informal register will cause you to feel intellectually superior, and my use of profanity will cause you to feel morally superior.
Battle those urges with everything you’ve got.
I need you to talk to me without lecturing. I need you to include me in discussions. I don’t need condescension, I need conversation. I know you’re convinced that your language is the “correct” one and mine is somehow broken. But Jesus speaks Ebonics too.

By the way, it is okay for you to talk your talk. I don’t mind. But don’t try to mimic me, because I don’t know how to respond to that.
I don’t need someone who looks like me and sounds like me. I don’t need someone more ghetto or someone who fits into the neighborhood.
I need someone who truly cares. I need the love that turns things upside down. That will be enough.

I like to laugh, just like you do. I want to have a good time. But I laugh at different things than you.
You laugh at clever remarks and ironic situations and cunning satire.
I laugh when I tease the boy next to me until he cries. He walks funny and his clothes are too big. (My clothes are too big too, but I crucify him for it.)
Then I flip open my cousin’s cell phone and show everybody an animation I downloaded for $1.99.
It is Scooby Doo having sex with Daphne.
I laugh loud and long so everyone around me hears. I pass it around because there is great value in being the entertainer.
You tell me I am mean and inappropriate, but I don’t know how else I am supposed to laugh. The only things funny to me are people and sex. And when I showed it to my uncle, he laughed too.

That animation on my phone is the best way for you to understand me. That animation shows the clash of two worlds.
Scooby and Daphne: icons of silliness and youth.
Graphic depiction of sex: a mysterious siren song beckoning me to the big people world.
I clash with myself every day.
I am a kid, a normal kid, just like in your family. I go through all the same phases and want all the same things. I am just as likely as your kid to beg for a toy or have a scary dream or cry when I don’t get my way. I am just as likely to bite my Tootsie Pop or enjoy Dr. Seuss or forget to tie my shoe laces. And sometimes I just need a nap.
But I am also an adult, a small adult, who sees the real world every day. I go through all the same phases and want all the same things. I may not understand it, but I am likely to be intrigued by sex and marvel over money and watch while my brother gets high. I look up to Scarface and I’m wary of police and I see through your lies about school. And sometimes I just need a drink.
I’m kind of schizophrenic. A half-kid half-adult hybrid. That’s why I can be vulgar and innocent at the same time. That’s why I will tell you of my sexual exploits in graphic detail and then ask you to blow bubbles with me. That’s why I will quote the movies “How High” and “Alvin and the Chipmunks” over dinner and laugh just as loud over both of them.

You might think I have no impulse control. You might think that I am overly emotional, or terribly dramatic, or blatantly offensive. You can’t figure out why I act like I do.
You feel like you can’t get close to me because I fly off the handle every now and then, or I am cold or hostile toward your sappy Christian advances. I’m totally inconsistent and you think I may be mentally imbalanced.

You know nothing stays the same? Ask me my phone number. I probably won’t know it.
Ask for my address. I might be able to give you the street name we just moved to.
Ask me who my parent or legal guardian is, or which of those kids is really my cousin. I’m not being rude when I don’t answer. I just can’t keep up.
And I don’t know if my mom will bring home groceries, and I don’t know if I will make it to middle school. I don’t know if I am safe in my bed, and I don’t know where my daddy went. The things I don’t know far outweigh the things I do know.
I can’t control what happens to any extent, and I have trouble predicting outcomes.
Things happen to me.
I don’t wake up and plan for my day. I wake up and brace myself.

That’s why I cry at the drop of a hat, and that is why I launch into manic fits. That is why, when my brother asks for help on his homework, he may start fuming and kick the hell out of something.
We’re wearing roller skates on a merry-go-round. We can’t catch our balance and no one is helping us up.
We are trying to climb the wrong way up an icy sliding board while the bully at the top keeps throwing snow balls.
We’re in a cage match with reality, and there is no way to tap out.

And so we do things.

Maybe you’ve seen those scars on my arms. No, not the cigarette burns. Those came from something else.
I mean the cuts. Those straight and narrow cuts that criss-cross all over my skin and make patterns like a railroad track.
They look suspiciously like I put them there myself. You wonder about it when you catch a glimpse, but it takes you a couple of weeks to ask.
Let me tell you about my day. Let me tell you about my day that is the same day every day, and how boring and tedious it becomes to climb out of bed. Everything seems broken sometimes, and I don’t believe it can be fixed. There is nowhere to go from here, nothing to do.
I am bored.
Boredom leads to apathy, apathy leads to numbness, and numbness is the enemy of hope. I am the walking dead and it doesn’t take long for me to yearn to feel something. I want to feel that little sting, that rush of endorphins, that cleansing release as I purge my body of pent up self-worthlessness. I feel something. And I am in control. I am causing the sensation and no one is doing it to me. I am causing the sensation and I can make it stop.

Leave me alone. Just leave me alone. Don’t talk to me! I hate you! I hate you!

I’ll run away and hide from you because you’re getting too close. I will say things just to make you hurt inside, and sometimes I get satisfaction in knowing you cried over me. I’ll cuss at you sometimes. I will jump out of your car and refuse to get back in, telling you the whole time that you are a liar who doesn’t care about me at all. Then I will walk home by myself in the rain, tossing the gift you gave me on the ground.
And I will watch over my shoulder to see you driving slowly behind me until I arrive safely at my destination.

I’m mad at you. I am not speaking to you. We both know that it’s not your fault, but I want to be mad at someone. I fume and vent, and you shrink and listen. You will try really hard in this situation, but I don’t want you to win. I want you to come back, but I don’t want you to win. I’m pissed.

I need you to be patient. Most people stick around until I lose my temper, or steal from them, or resist their love. They get tired, or hurt, or bored, or mad and I never see them again. When you wipe my spit from your face and search me out in the streets, I get it. Then I start to believe you. I’ll be baffled by your mercy and puzzled by your grace, and the yearning of my heart will be satisfied by your faithfulness. I’ll probably still act mad for a while, and I may teach you some new choice phrases. But I will also end the conversation with, “I’ll see you tomorrow, okay?”
So, thanks for reading my letter. I don’t know if you’ll understand what I am saying, I am really not that articulate. I don’t know how to express these things. Sometimes I have to wrestle with my tongue to make the words come out. But I still wanted someone to hear me out, to engage my opinions, to recognize my voice.

And I cherish you for doing that.

From the kid you want to work with, but keep at arm’s length;
From the child you pick up for church on Sunday and play basketball with on Monday;
From the one who loves your reading voice and wishes he had a dad like you;
From the boy who needs to learn to shave and the girl who needs a chick flick night;
From the 1 in 4 who is living in poverty;
From the one who is close enough to touch.
I’ll see you tomorrow.

Bring candy.

Monday, November 09, 2009

When the Kids Come to Visit...

(The sugar that was in the cake you see all over Zenebesh's face may be an antecedent to the events that followed)

The other day my mom decided to drop the four littlest kids off at my house so that she and my dad could could spend some time together before he went out of town. He has been traveling a TON for work and they were in the city that night to drop him off at the airport.
Not unlike most evenings with my family it was fun, loud, and involved lots of music. My roommates were in for a treat since they hadn't been around so many of my siblings at once before ;)
When they got to my house, I had a chance to practice my listening skills as each kid simultaneously tried to catch me up on what had been going on in their lives the last few weeks. It's an art to be convincingly attentive to four people at once, but having a big family has given me lots of practice.
Once the most exciting of their stories had been told, Aaron and Zenebesh decided they wanted to play Ring Around the Rosie. They have created their own version to the game, which basically involves me sitting in the middle as they run around the circle singing like crazy. At one point Lacy thought it would be funny to stick her foot out and try to trip the kids as they ran by. This new element was enough to evoke Tekle's interest (since he wouldn't be caught dead playing such a 'baby' game otherwise), and he eagerly accepted the challenge to jump over her extended foot without getting tripped. Soon someone suggested that we bring out the broom to use as a hurdle instead of Lacy's foot. We came up with a game where each round we lifted the broom a little higher as the kids continued to try jumping over it. After while Tekle was showing off by doing extravagant flips and break dance moves over the broom and scoffing about how easy it was for him. The game was clearly putting Aaron and Zeni at a disadvantage, so Lacy and I decided to switch things up and do the Limbo instead. All of a sudden the shorter kids had the advantage (and we found out Zeni is an expert at the Limbo--who knew?) which humbled Tekle a little bit. He quickly decided he didn't want to play that game anymore and suggested that we have a break dance competition instead. We set up the speakers and after a slight reprimand from Zenebesh for not having the Hoedown-Throw-Down on my iPOD, the three littlest kids were dancing away and Lacy and I were cheering them on from the sidelines. I laughed as I repeatedly caught Tekle and Aaron sneaking glances at my roommate (who was observing us from a safe distance) after an especially cool move to see if she had seen it or not. After awhile our skillful dancers had worked up a sweat and the boys decided to take their shirts off. For some reason, that inspired Aaron to excitedly suggest "How about we have a Fashion Show?!" , which resulted in this impressive video of Aaron's runway skills...

And that is how a simple game of Ring Around the Rosie evolved into a night of craziness...

Never a dull moment with these guys!!

Sunday, November 01, 2009


Thanks to both of the Sarahs for the gentle push to get me writing again :)

Where to begin?

Around the time I wrote my last post, my family went through a major life change. Since then I have been unsure of what to say on here. It's dangerous to write things publicly when your emotions are raw, so as tempted as I was to write a long, frustrated vent (my roommates refer to this as word-vomiting) I held back because I didn't want to hurt anyone. Now that a couple of months have passed, I hope I will be able to word this in a way that is honest, yet respectful of the people I love most.

Back in August, Lacy and I had an amazing week at the camp we go to every summer. I had gone as a counselor with the DinoMights and Lacy went as a camper.

While we were on the bus coming back from camp, I got a panicked call from my brother telling me that my parents were moving. To the country. In another state. The following Thursday.

To say I was shocked would be an understatement. I knew my parents had been looking at houses, but last I had heard they were looking in our old neighborhood. My worst fear was that they would find a place in the suburbs, but it never even occurred to me that they would move to the country--let alone the country in another state!

First I cried. Then I got angry. I think the first thing I asked my mom was "Have you forgotten that you have black children?!" (harsh, I know, give me some grace). Diversity has always been a top priority for our family. It was a deciding factor in which schools and churches we attended, which programs we were involved in, and up until recently where we lived. My parents have always made sure that we were surrounded by a diverse group of people and to the best of my knowledge, my siblings have never been in a situation where they were the "token" child of color. My mom had spoken on transracial adoption forums about the dangers of raising kids of color in an all white environment, and emphasized how important it was to give them the opportunity to be involved in their culture. We had lived in the city all of our life. I was so incredibly confused! And scared.

Even after I acknowledged that the terrifying images running through my head of klan members attacking my siblings were probably not very realistic, I had other worries. What about dating? An AA friend of mine going to college in the same area my parents moved to had recently told me about all of the challenges she was facing in the dating world related to being an AA girl surrounded by white guys who had little to no experience in regards to diversity. That topic could be a post in itself so I won't go into detail, but it made me want to wrap my arms around my sisters and tell them to stay far away from boys out there! I've heard multiple white girls from rural communities tell me that they would be nervous to introduce a black boyfriend to their dad. Is that going to be a problem when Tekle and Aaron start to date? How will they feel being one of the only kids of color in their schools? Will Zeni know her hair is beautiful even though it's very different than the rest of the girls who will go to school with her? Will the kids lose their ability to navigate cross-culturally?

Now I know that there are tons of very nice people who live in the country.People who are doing incredible things and making the world a better place. People who would never do anything to hurt my siblings and would welcome them into the community with open arms. I know that not everyone who lives in the country is ignorant and that there is plenty of racism in the city as well. I just think that they are more likely to run into problems in a place that is so homogeneous that there isn't a pressing need for dialogue and education on issues of race. Yes, I know that my brothers and sisters will have an opportunity to educate and break-down stereotypes. Heck, just by moving there my siblings brought the diversity level of the town up by .06% It's just that they never really volunteered for that, you know?

On a more selfish level, I was having a really hard time with the thought of them being so far away. I was used to spending time with them daily. I feared that I would become more like an aunt that visits once in awhile than a sister. I knew that I would miss them like CRAZY.

Fast forward to today: The kids are adjusting. They are in school and making friends. They often talk longingly about how they miss the way things were before, but they are making the most out of the situation. To be honest, they are handling this much better than the way my older brothers and I reacted the last time my parents decided to move. Lacy is taking horse-back riding lessons and loving it. My mom is able to stay home full time with Aaron and Zeni. Isaac is still going to the same performing arts school, and is enjoying his senior year (even though it is another state, it's just 45 minutes from the city so he is able to commute).

I try to make it out there to see them once a week, but because of school sometimes I can't. My role as a sister has definitely changed. It hurts to see the kids getting used to not having me around, but the alternative to that would be them being sad and missing me which I certainly don't want either. I miss family dinners. Janaya's facebook status on her birthday said that her day would have been better if she could have eaten dinner with all of her brothers and sisters like usual, and I couldn't have agreed with her more. There have been days where I wanted to rush over to my parent's house and share an exciting piece of news or "word-vomit" (haha I'm really enjoying that term)about one thing or another, but phone calls have had to suffice. I miss having them close-by.

I have had to come to terms with the fact that even though I don't like the situation, it is what it is. I can continue to fight it, but what's the point? I don't want to be mad anymore. I know my parents are trying to make this easier on us. For now my Mom and Janaya come back to the city for church on Sundays. They are willing to spend lots of time driving so that the kids can continue see their friends here. They even had Lacy's old hockey team over for a bonfire and fireworks the other day.

People are dealing with circumstances much harder than this all over the world (like the food shortage in Ethiopia for example) so I try and keep things in perspective. My siblings are clothed, fed, and loved. Things are different, but we will figure it out. That's what you do in a family.You face the hard stuff together and you find ways to make it work. I don't need to love their decision but I need to love them in the midst of it. I still have the coolest family in the universe and I know we are going to be okay.

I had considered continuing to post without ever bringing up the subject of my parents moving, but something felt dishonest about that. It was basically quit the blog or tell the truth. Initially I had decided on the first option which explains the lack of posts over the last few months, but then I started to really miss blogging. This blog has been sort of a family journal and it would be sad to just abruptly end it like that. So there you have it! The truth. It's nice to be back :)

Thursday, July 30, 2009

More on Hair

Top from L to R: Jessica, Marika, Brittani
Bottom: Me, Carmen, Jackee

First off, let me say that I LOVE my friends!
I met each of these girls during different stages of life--Brittani and I have known each other since kindergarten, Carmen and I have been best friends since middle school, Jessica and Marika and I were friends in high school, and Jackee and I met in high school but didn't really become friends until college. Last night some of us were hanging out at my house and the topic of hair came up. It was really interesting to hear what everyone had to say. The girls gave me permission to share some of it here.

The conversation started because we were joking around about what our dream guy would look like. Marika and Jessica both mentioned that they wanted to marry either a white or a light-skinned guy and one of their reasons was that they wanted their kids to have "good hair".
Right away Brittani went off about how she hates that term. Her mom is a hair stylist and whenever someone walks into her shop saying that, she quickly corrects them and says there is NO SUCH THING as "good hair". No one outright says that someone has "bad hair" but the implication is there when nobody is saying that you have "good hair". Brittani said she wants to marry a dark-skinned man and have children with "beautiful, thick, nappy hair". She said that when she hears other black girls wanting to have mixed children with long hair, it sounds like a form of self-hatred since that's not what their hair looks like. Her comments seemed to strike a chord with Jessica because she started telling us about how growing up she always felt like the "dark skinned girl that nobody liked" because guys always fell for the biracial girls. It made sense why she hopes to have mixed children someday--she doesn't want her kids to have the same hurtful experiences she did as a young girl.
They then went on to talk about how they felt judged no matter how they did their hair growing up.
People would always run up to touch Jessica's hair and ask if it was real because she had naturally long hair and people aren't used to seeing that on black girls. In school some girls would be mean to her because they were jealous of the length of her hair.
They also talked about the comments people would make when they got extensions or weave. I definitely remember being in school and hearing kids tell girls their hair was "unbe-weave-able" and then laughing hysterically.
Brittani said she would get made fun of when she was little and still had her hair in braids (because her Mom wanted to avoid chemicals as long as possible) while everyone else was getting perms.
At the same time I know that some women who decide to keep their hair natural all of their life judge girls who get perms, saying that they are 'selling-out' or trying to look white.
It seems to be a catch 22...
What I absolutely LOVED about this conversation was that it showed two sides to the story. It was clear that Jessica and Marika had been hurt by the negative perceptions of their hair and skin-tone over the years and that it is still something that affects them today. Yet Brittani seemed to handle things differently. She definitely heard the hurtful comments when she was growing up, but it was obvious that her Mom had instilled so much pride into her that she was able to handle the negativity a lot better. She was raised to believe that her hair was beautiful exactly the way it is and to have pride in the way she looks. She spoke with so much confidence during this whole conversation that the other girls really seemed to listen and soak up what she was saying. She stressed the importance of seeing the beauty in ALL types of hair and not creating a hierarchy of 'good' and 'bad' hair. That's the type of self-worth I hope my little sisters grow up with. Because it's not just about hair. It's about self-esteem and being proud of who you are and where you came from. I think I might suggest to Janaya that she starts hanging out with Brittani at her Mom's hair salon :)

I figured that since I put up a picture of us in sweats I should probably put a cute one up too--Carmen is missing though...

Tuesday, July 28, 2009


I think that everyone should go and read this super sweet post that Leah wrote about Lacy :)

Tuesday, July 21, 2009


Two days with new blog posts in a row, I am kind of proud of myself :)
Tekle and Zeni both have new hairstyles this week.
Zenebesh always insists that she wants her hair to look just like Janaya's. The problem with that is that Janaya's hairstlye looks beautiful on a teenage girl who can keep it looking good on her own, but it is not very practical for a toddler who likes to play outside, swim, and do all kinds of other activities that are hazerdous to a style like that. So to make everyone happy we showed Zeni pictures of Janaya with the box braids she always had when she was little and all of a sudden Zenebesh was thrilled to have her hair braided. Problem solved :) My mom and I worked together on her hair and she was happy to realize that she is still a faster braider than me--I tell her it's only because she has YEARS of experience! Lacy actually helped us too and Zenebesh kept asking "Why is EVERYBODY doing my hair?!"

Tekle has been asking to get his hair done for ages. Believe it or not, Isaac is our resident hair-stylist and he started the process to dread Tekle's hair. Right now they are just twists but he looks ADORABLE.

And I have a whole team of hairstlyists in the house for my hair as well--aren't you jealous??

Monday, July 20, 2009

Summer Blogger

I've noticed that a lot of people's blogging frequency drops significantly in the summer. I'm clearly no exception!
To make up for my lack of words, here are a ton of pictures from our vacation up North. As much as I adore the city, it's nice to get away and enjoy a change of scenery once in awhile :) We had a great time!